When most people hear the term “soul mate” they automatically think a boyfriend/girlfriend, spouse or significant other. In a lot of cases that’s not what someone’s soul mate is.
For me, my soul mate is my best friend.
Now I have had a lot of “besties”. I have had ones that are literally psychotic, I have had ones that used me. I have had ones that just completely forgot I existed. I have had ones that got mad at me for stupid shit and never spoke to me again. Looking back, I realize these were not “best friends” they weren’t even friends.
Nothing compares to the feeling you get when someone literally drops everything to talk to you on the phone for two hours. Nothing compares to the feeling you get when you are crying and they understand every word you say. Nothing compares to the feeling you get when someone understands everything you tell them.
My best friend is more important to me than some of my blood. We’ve gotten to the point where everything we say has some kind of inside joke to it. We have the strangest sense of humor and it matches perfectly. She’s the reason I’m still kicking. Mainly because she’s always had my back. No matter what. No questions asked. She’s spied on me to make sure I didn’t get kidnapped. She has gone out of her way to make me feel better in so many situations.
I honestly can’t imagine my life without her. She is the most incredible person. She has such a beautiful and giving heart. She’s tough when she has to be, but in a gentle way. She can say things like “you stupid slut” and it’s not in the least offensive.
We are so much alike it’s ridiculous. Just an example. I bought those cinnamon gummy bears yesterday, she had bought some the day before. We had no idea.
We have never, not once, gotten in a fight. I think it’s because we’re the same person. We joke about it all the time, how we’re the same person. We’ve made jokes about selling our kidneys to buy a farm. Her response (since I get very frequent kidney stones) was “no one wants your broken ass kidneys”.
Not only has she always been there for me emotionally, she’s been there physically. When I was in my “let’s go to the bar” phase, she was always there making sure nothing bad happened.
We were talking the other day and she said we are like a Yin Yang. I bring crazy to her life and she brings calm to mine. If I hasn’t had her in my crazy stages, I would have made a lot more bad decisions. I have no doubt about it. This one time at the bar, I was dancing with an Oompa Loompa and she decided it was time for me to go home. Another night, I had way too much to drink and I grabbed a big mixing bowl, just in case I threw up. Her crazy ass took my house keys, locked up the house and went to Walmart. Just to buy me a trash can. She bought me a light blue and beautiful trash can. Just because I didn’t have one.
There have been so many things we have done together and most people would lock us up for it because they think we’re just plain insane.
For Christmas 2014, I had two necklaces made. Her and I have adapted the names Batman and Robin. She is my Batman.
I told her I was shipping the box and what day/time it would be there. While I lied to my best friend for 3 months, I was planning the biggest surprise ever. I had planned with her mom, and everything was set. So December 24th comes and I remember being 15 minutes away from her house and so excited I could barely breathe.
When her mom got me from the door, I walked in the living room where she was sitting on the floor wrapping Christmas gifts. I held a box (with Batman wrapping paper) in front of my face. She looked up, looked back down and realized it was me.
I think this was by far the greatest gift I could have gotten for Christmas. The excitement was incredible. I cried because I had my bestie back. We live in different states, so getting time in person is tough.
We had dinner and went to look at Christmas lights. Not nearly enough time.
She is my soul sister, my best friend, my Shadow Ninja, my strip club partner, my long random walks to Village Inn partner, and my soul mate. I can’t imagine life without this girl (or her family).
She was there for moral support for my sister’s going away party when she moved.
Batman, my life wouldn’t be complete if you weren’t in it. I am so blessed to have such an amazing best friend. This next few months is going to be hard. And I am so so glad I have you by my side to help me fight my demons and to help clean up the messes. I am so happy you love my son like you do. I am so happy he loves you! We are both so very blessed.
Thank you for everything you’ve done and everything you’re prepared to do. You are truly my life saver. I love you whore.